Friday, July 24, 2009

How do we fill voids in our life and become whole?

This week on my way to work, I was listening to the radio and the host of the show was talking about how people have certain voids in their lives that prevented them from being happy and whole as a person. This struck a cord with me and put everything in perspective. As a whole, I believed up to this point my life has been everything that I could have hoped for. I have a good job, great family, great friends, a sharehouse in Fire Island, and just a positive outlook on life in general. But that didn't stop me from realizing the certain voids in my life that I have yet to achieve.

In a perfect world, we would be able to pick our own lifestyle. Me personally, I would be a professional baseball player with a contract that would set me up for life financially, a mansion, cars, and a family. Even if I did live this lifestyle, would it make me any more or less happy?? Or would I still have a void left unfulfilled??

The only true way we can answer this question is to take a good look at ourselves in the mirror and ask "Am I happy with what I have or do I need certain things to make my life better?" For example, picture a good looking guy who would appear to have it all. He has a different girl every night of the week; he drives a Ferrari, has a boat, and has a ton of friends. You think he would be happy right? Well maybe not because he hasn't found that right girl who he could settle down with and start a family. Or he could possibly have a terrible relationship with his father who he hasn't had contact with since he was a boy. It would be obvious that the void in his life is having a caring family.

We all have voids in our life that seem to give us an empty feeling. The only way these can be filled is each and everyday we need to set goals for ourselves on how we can improve. Whether you want to buy a house, car, meet new people, get married and start a family, there needs to be a plan in action to achieve these goals. Everyday that I wake up, I try to think of ways that I can be a better person. I always want to be the best at whatever I do and at times I can be too hard on myself. I know I'm not perfect but that doesn't mean I can't stop improving. On that note, I wish everyone the best of luck in achieving your dreams and desire. Never say never.

Monday, July 20, 2009

You don't meet anyone sitting in front of the tv

Picture this scenario, its Saturday night and you have no plans at all. Your content being in your sweats and watching Rocky for the 15 millionth time. Than out of nowhere you get a phonecall from one of your friends asking if you want to come out for a night of partying. You tell him that your not in the mood to go out tonight. He responds by saying Ok but just remember you don't meet anyone sitting in front of the tv. Does this sound familiar to anybody??

Im sure at somepoint or another we have all been at the stage where were just not in the mood to go out. Take me for instance, during tax season working 6 days a week most nights I have no desire to go out because I'm shot. And Im perfectly fine watching a movie or doing whatever. But at same time I realize that if I stay home all day, chances are I wont be making any new friends. Life is really all about networking and making new connections. Im not even talking about meeting someone for dating purposes. Whether it be at the beach, grocery store, or the mall chances are there will be plenty of different kinds of people there. I have many great friends but Im always up to expanding my network.

Reason Im writing about this is because at beginning of the year, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and we discussed how we could expand our network of people we know. Best way he told me was to get out of the house and mingle with people which hes right about. He was the one who coined the line you dont meet anyone sitting in front of the tv. I followed his advice and to my surprise, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. This year Ive met alot of really cool people with different stories to tell. So this formula does work.

In closing, its important to have a network of people who share common interests with you. People wont bite you so don't be afraid. You will only be doing yourself a favor by going out and mingling with everybody. So get off the couch, put away the Playboy Magazine and go out and make some new friends. You got nothing to lose